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A Path to Emotional Support for Caregivers

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The seventh in our nine-part guide for new caregivers. Caregivers suffer disproportionately from depression, anxiety and loneliness, but each caregiver can take one step that will help combat all three: finding a support group. This may not be easy, and it may take time to find the right group, but once you find it, that group can provide not only stories and guidance from a community of caregivers but also emotional support and a stress escape valve to help through the many challenges of caregiving. “It gives them an element of feeling that they're not in it alone—just f  ...read more

Getting Support: The Challenges Caregivers Face and How to Overcome Them

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The sixth in our nine-part guide for new caregivers. When people becomes parents for the first time, they encounter a new world with demands and stresses and joys that they never anticipated. Becoming a caregiver is a bit the same way. There may be a stronger closeness and love that develops, but there will also be stresses that are unexpected and require new skills to handle. Just like new parents, who may want to provide the sole care for their children, caregivers often have a hard time enlisting others in the tasks required to care for loved ones. The reasons are varie  ...read more

How to Find Help-- Tips for Caregivers and Loved Ones

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The fifth in our nine-part guide for new caregivers. Strangely enough, when someone suffers from a stroke or other debilitating ailment, at least two people end up needing help—the sufferer and the caregiver. But often, caregivers, who may be spouses, children or other relatives, are so focused on the needs of their ailing family members that they forget about their own needs as they look for help. In fact, many don't even realize that it's important to call themselves caregivers. “Most of us call ourselves daughters, wives—'I'm not a caregiver; that's   ...read more

Entering the Medical World As a Caregiver

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The fourth in our nine-part guide for new caregivers. When you are suddenly thrust into life as a caregiver, handling a loved one’s medical needs can be one of the most confusing things for you to manage. Unless you have a medical background, you’ll be learning all sorts of new vocabulary and medical processes. You may be interacting with multiple doctors about varied medications and treatments, all of which you need to oversee. You may need to perform a litany of tasks at home, ranging from administering injections to monitoring blood oxygen levels, while also assisting with baths  ...read more

What to Do When the End Is Near

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The third in our nine-part guide for new caregivers. One of the most heart-wrenching aspects of being a caregiver is deciding how to let go of your loved one. When is the right time to move a patient into hospice, which can provide loving and professional support while someone is dying? When would residential placement be helpful, or would dying at home be preferable? Could palliative care, which helps with pain management, be of use? How do you approach making certain the will and any other legal issues are properly addressed? Should preparations be made in advance for a fu  ...read more

How to Build a Caregiver Support System

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The second in our nine-part guide for new caregivers. How to Build a Caregiver Support System When suddenly thrust into life as a caregiver, one needs support—financial, social, emotional, and physical—but how and where do you find it? The answer to that will be unique for every person and each situation. Some people might have big families or an extensive group of supportive friends who jump in to help out, but most will not have this ideal situation. And even with strong support, caregiving can be such a demanding, lonely job that isolation is c  ...read more

Financial Tips for New Caregivers

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Financial Tips for New Caregivers: What to Expect and How to Find Your Way The first in a nine-part series for new caregivers. When one suddenly becomes a caregiver, the challenges can be immense and confusing.Aside from the varied emotional and medical stresses, caregivers must deal with sudden and unexpected financial changes. When Janet Dodson, a Kathi Koll Foundation award recipient, lost her mother, Dodson and her stepsister became the caretakers for Dodson's stepfather, who has Parkinson's disease. Aside from the family's grief, the financial and legal stre  ...read more

Keeping Intimacy Alive

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Keeping intimacy alive is a challenge in any relationship, but when one partner has had a stroke, the challenges can multiply. Strangely enough, after my husband had a massive stroke that left him paralyzed from the neck down, our love for each other grew stronger. This may seem odd since our relationship and our lives also were tested in ways I could never have imagined. His frustrations were many, and there were many things I couldn't fix. Yet, I could still find ways to bring joy to his life, and having that mission helped me feel better too. Here are a few tips for nurturi  ...read more

New Year’s Resolution For The Caregiver: Be Kinder To Yourself

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It’s the New Year and that time that we start thinking about how we’re going to do things differently, and better, in the next year. Perhaps you’d like to shed those holiday pounds by going to the gym every day, take a new class or read more. The New Year is a good time to make a change or at least think about making a change. However, as a former full-time family caregiver who knows how stressful the role can be, I’d like to offer an alternative to the sometimes challenging and often failed exercises in willpower. Instead of tormenting yourself with a difficult-to-achieve resolut  ...read more

Enjoying the Holidays After a Stroke

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After my husband suffered a catastrophic stroke in 2005, the holidays didn’t seem so merry. I found myself yearning for our life before Don became paralyzed from the neck down and had to use a respirator to breathe. Everything about the holiday season seemed to emphasize how our old life was gone and how our present reality was nothing either of us had wanted. Those first couple of holiday seasons were an often painful challenge. How could I manage the increased expectations and activities? Even going to a Christmas party required so much effort. How could I get through  ...read more